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Monday, August 22, 2022

Christian Parenting Resources and... Opinions!

I have had the privilege of preaching, writing and collecting what I consider to be wise material on parenting for many years. One of my sabbatical projects has been working on a new parenting class I hope to teach in the fall. It is called something like, Pastor Paul's Parenting Opinions. The reason I am stressing opinions, is that the Bible actually has very little to say about the details of parenting. Wise parents will talk to those who have gone before them and collect (and evaluate) their opinions to chart their own course. 

However, that does not mean the Bible has nothing to say about parenting. So, here is some of the material I have been blessed by or preached on or written about over the years. I hope it is useful to you!

4 Things New Parents Need to Know and Seasoned Parents Need to Remember -  The Stone Foundation


PART ONE: ARTICLES

Texts of Scripture you need to think hard about in order to be a faithful parent

https://www.gfcto.com/articles/for-parents/parenting-wisdom-101


CHILDHOOD CONVERSION

by Jim Elliff

https://www.gfcto.com/articles/for-parents/childhood-conversion---elliff 


WALTER ON THE FAMILY

https://www.gfcto.com/articles/letters-from-walter/walter-on-the-family 

“Well, well, well. It's been longer than a Hereford's tail since I wrote last and I am glad to get back to pen and pad. The colder weather makes sitting still a might easier to do, and all that time on the tractor this fall has filled my head with perhaps a couple good things to share with you. Mrs. Walter is all in a wonder that you would want to hear my babbling again, but what's a wife for if not to remind you that you're not half as good as you once thought you were!”


WALTER ON PARENTING LITTLE CHILDREN

https://www.gfcto.com/articles/letters-from-walter/on-parenting-little-children

“Now, the Lord never gives anything that He doesn't include the instructions or resources for - but what I have always found peculiar is just how little he says about parenting. I recall those early days of our first little olive shoot (Ps 128:3), when we wondered when exactly it was we stopped being children and started having them!”


WALTER ON BEING A DAD

https://www.gfcto.com/articles/letters-from-walter/on-being-a-dad

“Thanks for taking the time to read these letters. You've got more patience than a chipmunk stuck at a turtle-crossing!

Well, last time I wrote I tried to make clear that the most important thing for your family is a happy marriage. Husband and wife loving each other and living in unity will create a family bond stronger than duct tape and binder twine.

Today I want to move on to the role the husband plays in the family.”


WALTER ON BEING A MOM

https://www.gfcto.com/articles/letters-from-walter/on-being-a-mom 

“Besides climbing up a greased fireman's pole backwards and blindfolded with your arms tied behind your back, there are few things more difficult in life than being a mom.“


AUTHORITY AND SUBMISSION IN THE CHURCH

https://www.gfcto.com/articles/theological-issues/authority-and-submission 


WHY KEEP THE WHOLE FAMILY TOGETHER FOR CHURCH?

https://www.gfcto.com/why-keep-the-whole-family-together-for-church


WHAT DOES GOD WANT FROM ME? SOME IMPORTANT THOUGHTS FOR CHILDREN

https://www.gfcto.com/articles/for-children/what-does-god-want-from-me


PART TWO: AUDIO SERMONS


Let's Just Parent Like Christians

https://www.gfcto.com/sermons/sermon/2021-10-17/lets-just-parent-like-christians

October 17, 2021 Speaker: Paul Martin Series: Let's Just Act Like Christians

Topic: Expository Preaching Verse: Ephesians 6:4–6:4 

1. Do not exasperate your kids

2. Lovingly stop and correct bad behaviours in your kids

3. Teach and urge compliance to the truth in your kids


Family Dynamics (Part 1)

https://www.gfcto.com/sermons/sermon/2015-11-22/family-dynamics-part-1 

November 22, 2015 Speaker: Paul Martin Series: Be Wise, Young Man, Be Wise

Verse: Proverbs 1:1–31:31

1. The Kids
          Proverbs 10:1; 28:7; 17:21, 25; 20:20; 30:17; 23:22-25

2. The Parents
          Proverbs 22:6, 15; Romans 1:16-17; 10:9-11


Family Dynamics (Part Two): Parenting

https://www.gfcto.com/sermons/sermon/2015-12-06/family-dynamics-part-two-:-parenting

December 6, 2015 Speaker: Paul Martin Series: Be Wise, Young Man, Be Wise

Verse: Proverbs 1:1–31:31

1. The state of the child

          a. Behaviour is an overflow of the heart

          b. Every heart is full of folly

2. The duty of the parent

          a. Model

          b. Teach

          c. Discipline


Gospel-centred Parenting

https://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=12310144370 


Being a Gospel-centred Kid

https://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=13110322472


Tuesday, January 10, 2006

Old Walter Writes on Life After Christmas

My old friend Walter has gotten into writing letters to our church. They are really quite wonderful! I am not sure I always agree with everything Walter says, but there is always something there to be convicted by or encouraged in. Since Al Mohler and challies both posted this week about honouring and listening to the aged (HT: JT), I thought I would post a letter that Walter wrote last Christmas to the kids in our church. It was great.

December 19, 2004

Dear Paul,

I know you didn’t ask for it, but I thought I might just send a few words down to the kids and young people at Grace Fellowship Church this Christmas season. I hope you don’t mind!
I’ve lived through a good many Christmas’s… some happy and some not… and although it took longer than it should have, I think I’ve learned a couple important lessons I’d like to share with you.
First of all, you need to think about this verse at Christmas time when presents come:
James 1:17 “Every good and perfect gift comes from above from the Father of lights…”
Here is the funny thing that I have learned about getting presents … if your joy ends in the present (a sled, or video game or doll or new dress) then your joy will end. There is just no lasting joy in things.
Now that is one of the lies of the devil – that you can be happy IF you just get this or that. Fact is, the happiest kid on earth may be the one who only owns the shirt on his back… or less. Happiness is like a snowflake. If you grab a hold of it with your hand it will melt and disappear, but if you let it fall where it will, soon you will have a beautiful field to look at. And what ought you do when you see that beautiful field – why praise God and thank Him for it, that’s what! And the same goes for your toys and such at Christmas. Walter says, think of them as springboards… like the gymnast or swimmer uses. Without that spring, it’s pretty hard to get where you need to go! Well, all your toys and presents are things to shoot your heart to your God in thanks, praise and wonder.
I believe you folks at Grace have a saying: “Delighting in God to the Glory of God.” I like that! You see kids; you can use all those presents… or just the one or two you might get… as springboards to help you delight in God your Maker.
I’m not suggesting you should ignore the presents and toys! No, Walter says use them with all your heart… but just don’t stop at the toy! That good gift is from more than mom or dad or sister or brother – it is from the Lord. And you can thank Him in your heart right in the middle of loving and playing with it!
I knew a boy who got used to getting some pretty big presents every year. Stuff you could only dream of! But one day the presents stopped and that boy… he turned sour and dour on Christmas mornings, like someone had kicked his dog and spat in his soup! He only knew how to find snowflake happiness. And the more he grabbed - the less there was! Even when he grew old and rich and could buy all the things he wanted, he felt all hollow inside – like not enough peanut butter on too much bread. The more he grabbed at happiness the faster it melted in his hand. All the money in the world can’t bring you true joy – joy is the fruit of the Holy Spirit.
Some kids think they should only eat the icing in life and leave the rest of the cake for their neighbour’s lama. But even icing tastes bad after a while if that is all you eat. Potatoes may not zing your taste buds, but they help you enjoy that wonderful turkey and dressing! You just go ahead and enjoy every part of Christmas – from watching others open presents, to eating with your big family, to being alone in your room, to thinking about the best gift of all – salvation in Jesus.
One last thing: I suggest you read a lot of the gospels around Christmas time. You could read the first couple of chapters of Matthew, Mark, Luke and John. The Devil would love for you to go through all of Christmas thinking about nothing other than what you’re gonna get on Christmas morning. That is, thinking of nothing else besides you.
Don’t be tricked by his crafty ways of dressing up Christmas to be all happy and joyful, when all he’s really doing is making you cross-eyed from self-look. Cast your eyes off yourself and look to Jesus. Christmas is more than just a birthday party for Him – it is remembering that God loved man so much, He sent His one unique Son, so that everyone who believes on Him will live forever with Him in heaven.

Have a very merry Christmas,

Walter

Saturday, January 30, 2010

Walter on Divorce

Grace Fellowship Church of West Toronto: Walter on the Family:

Sometimes I like to re-read the letters Walter has written us. I found this little gem this afternoon... (Have you cut loose your lifeboats?)

"Agree to never talk about some things. Really, only one thing comes to my mind... and that is the D-word. Mrs. Walter and I have never discussed, even in jest, the idea of divorce. We never joke about it, threaten it, think about it or talk about it. We decided early on that death would be the only thing to separate us.

Now that does something to you! If you walk into a marriage with some ridiculous 'escape clause,' you are inviting division! Old Charlie McIntyre used to talk so much about how everything was going to go wrong it almost always did... for him! If he'd of just kept at has task and worried about pleasing the Lord more than what troubles might beset him, he'd lived a happier and no doubt longer life.

I read once of a sea captain who cut loose his own lifeboats so as to keep his men on board ship while they passed some tropical islands. Those sailors were tempted to sneak off to what looked like greener pastures when there was a way to get there. Once them lifeboats were gone, they were focused on the task and kept to their duties. A couple needs to take out the slightest thought of slinking off on a lifeboat to some supposed Tahiti. Life will always be better if they stick together and grow in the Lord."

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Walter on Money - Some Advice to the Campers at Carey Conference 2010

I had the privilege yesterday of reading a letter Walter wrote to the campers at this year's Carey Family Conference. The morning sessions were looking at life topics through the lense of Proverbs and that, well, that is just up Walt's alley.

Several asked for a copy of the letter so I promised to post it here. It is longer than average, but your corn won't rot if you read it all.

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Dear Friends at the Carey Conference,

Well, hello from here to there and welcome to my ramblings on money. I suppose Pastor Martin’s liquid spine is what caused him to ask me to write you since talking about money is like choosing paint colours for the church basement – everybody’s got an opinion!

My approach will be simple enough. I hope to remind you of what the wisest man on earth said about money and maybe point out a few observations I’ve made during my days under the sun. The stuff written by Solomon is worth heeding like a funnel cloud aimed at your barn. As for what I have to offer, remember an old horse will find his way home sooner than a yearling… the hard knocks of repetition can be a good teacher!

I suppose it is worth asking what money is? I accidentally left a $20 bill in my overalls last week and Mrs. Walter found it in 15 pieces after the rinse cycle. Now a Kleenex and money are both made out of paper, but my heart got a might more agitated over a torn twenty than a tattered hanky! Money gets all it’s power from what it does, of course. I can’t trade an envelope for a calf – unless it is full of the Queen’s pretty face. Only one kind of paper settles bills and bets in this country.

And I suppose that is the first thing we ought to learn about it – money gets its power from us. The more we love it, the more powerful it will become.

Money is Not Your God
Jesus said, “No servant can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money.” (Luke 16:13)

So, every son of Adam and daughter of Eve needs to work out in their own heart who it is they are going to love. Money is just a thing, really… not evil in and of itself. But it is death to the person who loves it.


Proverbs 23:1 When you sit down to eat with a ruler,
observe carefully what is before you,
2 and put a knife to your throat
if you are given to appetite.
3 Do not desire his delicacies,
for they are deceptive food.
4 Do not toil to acquire wealth;
be discerning enough to desist.
5 When your eyes light on it, it is gone,
for suddenly it sprouts wings,
flying like an eagle toward heaven.

Money is like cotton candy – it tickles the tastes buds but leaves you hungry. A man ought heed Solomon’s warning: “A knife to your throat” before falling in love with money!!

Some men love money so much they are willing to be wicked in order to get it. That wickedness may be fudging a number on a tax form or robbing a bank at gunpoint – I don’t suppose there’s a cartload of difference between the two in the Lord’s eyes. “The love of money is the root of all kinds of evil” (1 Tim 6). Like the old King said:

Proverbs 10:2 Treasures gained by wickedness do not profit,
but righteousness delivers from death.

Proverbs 20:17 Bread gained by deceit is sweet to a man,
but afterward his mouth will be full of gravel.

I’ve known lots of men with a driveway-full of stones in their mouth. Sure, they seem to have all that the world offers – but the wicked only earn “deceptive wages” (Pr 11:18) and they will not deliver when needed most! I once waited in line for two hours to see The Happy Hands Fiddle Troop. Only, when I finally got to the theatre door, they turned me away! Seems they had sold too many tickets and mine was one of them. No matter how I pleaded, my ticket couldn’t get me in! That’s the problem with money, too.

Proverbs 11:4 Riches do not profit in the day of wrath,
but righteousness delivers from death.

Proverbs 18:10 The name of the LORD is a strong tower;
the righteous man runs into it and is safe.
11 A rich man's wealth is his strong city,
and like a high wall in his imagination.

“The emperor has no clothes,” as the saying goes. Lots of men feel and act powerful and fearless in life who will stand naked and helpless in death. If you gain more peace about your situation from your bank account than your bond to the Lord, Walter says, “Watch out!”

“Earthly treasures quick run away,
but heavenly ones eternal stay!”

Proverbs 11:28 Whoever trusts in his riches will fall,
but the righteous will flourish like a green leaf.

If you worship it, money is like Baal of old – nothing. You may not dance and cut yourself to get it, but it will own just the same.

Money Comes By Work
Now once a man has got his loyalties settled, then he is set to ask, “How am I going to get some?”

Now here old Solomon left no doubts. IF you want to eat, you need to buy food. And if you want to buy food, you need to earn some money. And if you want to earn some money, you need to get a job.

Proverb 14:23 In all toil there is profit,
but mere talk tends only to poverty.

Proverbs 10:4 A slack hand causes poverty,
but the hand of the diligent makes rich.

2 Thessalonians 3:10 If anyone is not willing to work, let him not eat.

Whether he works 12 hours or 3, a man deserves to be paid at the end of the day and that is what we call his income. And most of us say, “Come in!” However, for many that income has an unfortunate outcome!

A clean barn means no cows (Pr 14:4). That might make a Mrs. Martha Stewart happy, but it’ll leave Mrs. Walter going hungry! No, hard work usually means a bit of a mess. If I look to the services of one of the men in town, one of the first things I do is look at his desk – too messy and he is probably incompetent…. too clean and he probably doesn’t do anything at all! Every trade has its tools and most of them involve sweat of one kind or another.

A good man learns to work when it is time to work.

Proverbs 10:5 He who gathers in summer is a prudent son,
but he who sleeps in harvest is a son who brings shame.

Proverbs 20:4 The sluggard does not plow in the autumn;
he will seek at harvest and have nothing.

The man who works will know something of His Maker’s pleasure and part of that smile is almost always bread on the table and beer in the mug (or, Adam’s Ale if you prefer). That man will “know his flocks and herds” (Pr 27:23-27) and always have enough for his family and his church. He may not live in gold and thousands of square feet – but he’ll live with a content heart and clean conscience. That’s something all the gold in the Royal Mint can’t buy!

If a man paid more attention to what he learned in grade school, he might do some good in this world. I recall one little rhyme:

Work while you work,
Play while you play,
One thing each time that is the way!

All that you do
Do with your might
Things done by halves are not done right!

But we tend to have the equilibrium of a newborn calf. If it wasn’t so hard to stay balanced I am sure the Lord would have had less to say about staying square between our work and our play. One man never raises a finger and the other works his fingers to the bone.

The Sluggard Will Have No Money
There’s very little fast money in this world. The sluggard spends all day scheming how to get it and goes to bed hungry. Another man inherits a safe-full, and it’s gone as fast as it appeared.

No, the Bible way to gaining your riches is through regular hard work over time.

Proverbs 28:19 Whoever works his land will have plenty of bread,
but he who follows worthless pursuits will have plenty of poverty.

Uncle Lester worked hard but died poor. Why? Because his life was full of worthless pursuits. From magnetic pipe purifiers to baptized Ponzi schemes, he was always chasing easy money.

Now, as for work itself – it’s not that bad! At least, Walter doesn’t think so, but I have known many who do not share my convictions! The Bible talks a lot about the sluggard and I don’t know if the two words go together, but I have seen how fast a slug moves… and what they are good for!

I have known men who can spend heaps of energy figuring out how not to work that, had they just put the same into a shovel for an hour, could have dug 4 miles of ditch. Some men move so slow you’d think their wife fed them led pancakes for breakfast and poured concrete in their shoes! The sluggard gets himself to the table, but never gets his hand from the bowl to his mouth – that’s too much work! (Pr 19:24; 26:15). He squeaks like a rusty hinge, but for all his noise he only goes back and forth, never forward (Pr 26:14).

Solomon said, the “idle suffer hunger” (Pr 19:15) and “hunger drives a man to work” (Pr 16:26), but the sluggard would rather sleep with a growling stomach than work for a full one. If Saul had ten excuses for not destroying the Amalekites, the sluggard has 100 for not going to work. The sluggard says, “There is a lion in the road! There is a lion in the streets!” (Pr 26:13). And I know that lion’s Latin classification: labour avoidest

O, he is always full of grand ideas and elaborate schemes of how he is going to pay the bills and feed the family, but in the end he will be shown for what he is. The man committed to sleep over work will wake up poor and lonely one day. That’s what wise Solomon said:

Proverbs 24:30 I passed by the field of a sluggard,
by the vineyard of a man lacking sense,
31 and behold, it was all overgrown with thorns;
the ground was covered with nettles,
and its stone wall was broken down.
32 Then I saw and considered it;
I looked and received instruction.
33 A little sleep, a little slumber,
a little folding of the hands to rest,
34 and poverty will come upon you like a robber,
and want like an armed man.

What I’ve never been able to figure though, is how they can stand looking at themselves when they shave in the morning? Always craving more and in love with pleasure, they get neither (Pr 21:25-26)! These men are the most foolish of all, I think, for they try to live contrary to nature – to the way God made them. The ant must have a small brain seeing how small in stature he is, but at least he does what he was made to do – “Go to the ant, O sluggard!” (Pr 6:6-11)! A man who does not work is worth nothing and should be avoided like an angry skunk.


The Overworker Will Have No Life
On the other hand, there are some men who just work too much! Even the ant stops and rests once in a while from his steady trek back and forth. I am sure that some men overwork partly because of nature – rabbits like to hop, cheetahs like to sprint and some men aren’t happy unless they are busy at something! But my guess is that the brunt of over-workers are merely coveters-in-disguise. Once a dog tastes blood, there’s no way to keep him away from your sheep. Some men turn into pit bulls once they taste a little money. You all don’t need me to tell you what that will get you. The Preacher in Ecclesiastes did just that when he wrote:

Ecclesiastes 2:18 I hated all my toil in which I toil under the sun, seeing that I must leave it to the man who will come after me, 19 and who knows whether he will be wise or a fool? Yet he will be master of all for which I toiled and used my wisdom under the sun. This also is vanity.

Slow and Steady, Eddie
No, I say the best way to live is to get up regular every morning and do the tasks God has given you. I liken my prayers after Agur, son of Jakeh:

Proverbs 30:7 Two things I ask of you;
deny them not to me before I die:
8 Remove far from me falsehood and lying;
give me neither poverty nor riches;
feed me with the food that is needful for me,
9 lest I be full and deny you
and say, “Who is the LORD?”
or lest I be poor and steal
and profane the name of my God.

Now there was a fine bit of wisdom! Some men get rich too fast and find they spend it just as fast. Gern Housely inherited 1 million dollars once – and spent it all in two years with nothing to show for it but a nice car. Mind you, he soon had to sell the car as he had no money to pay for the insurance! I am not opposed to being taken care of and even having a few loonies in the bank, but I’d rather mine came slow and steady than fast and furious. Haste makes waste as they say, or as Solomon put it:

Proverbs 13:11 Wealth gained hastily will dwindle,
but whoever gathers little by little will increase it.

The Curse of Riches
Now, as I said, wealth is all fine and good and makes a man’s days seem brighter, but riches bring with them their own snare. Many a rich man in hell is regretting the comfort he felt on earth!

So, money is just a thing to be used this side of glory, and it is good to work for it, but not to live for it. But what if there are always seems to be more month than salary?

It seems to me that one of the simplest lessons the simple never learn, is that you have to spend less than you earn. Cars don’t run on fumes. Cows don’t live on air. Yet, lots of folks try to live on less than either! No, a man or woman has to learn to always have a little left over at the end of the month. If I’m set to run 300 feet of fence I’ll be sure to buy 350 feet of wire – things always seem to cost more then you plan.

The leeches daughters will always be crying, “Give! Give!” (Pr 30:15) and a man has to have some defense against it. I know of a Christian lawyer (yes, both they and puffins really exist) who makes more money than could fit in my silo, but lives in a tiny house, drives an older car and wears suits off the rack. He decided early on what his standard of living would be and everything past that he gives away. Well, did you know that this man just keeps making more and more money! Now, who is in charge of that? Why, the Lord, of course! Seems to me that the Lord is just directing what belongs to Him to that man since that man is faithful to give it to those who need it!

Proverbs 13:7 One pretends to be rich, yet has nothing;
another pretends to be poor, yet has great wealth.

Proverbs 28:22 A stingy man hastens after wealth
and does not know that poverty will come upon him.

It takes a truckload of godliness and discernment for a man to live rich and stay godly. Not too many can handle lots of money. That’s why old Walter says… “Better a little!” Yep, that’s my motto and I’ll stick by it!

Proverbs 15:16 Better is a little with the fear of the LORD
than great treasure and trouble with it.
17 Better is a dinner of herbs where love is
than a fattened ox and hatred with it.
Proverbs 16:8 Better is a little with righteousness
than great revenues with injustice.
Proverbs 17:1 Better is a dry morsel with quiet
than a house full of feasting with strife.

I say a man ought to take a step back and ask what he wants to live his life for. Sure lots of folks are living for money… but are they happy? My god isn’t my happiness, at least I pray not, but it strikes me that only the man who is not living for money is able to enjoy the money he actually gets – whether it be lots or little.

Sins and Debts
Now, one other thing. Mr. Spurgeon said, “Sins and debts are always worse than we think.” And I agree with him 100%.

Nothing builds a fence between friends like a debt not paid. I was anxious to get Mrs. Walter out for a date once and had nothing in my wallet. I knew my pay was coming, but not for another week so I borrowed $20 from Steuben McGillicut. But did you know I forgot all about that loan – and after several months asked Stubby why he seemed so cool and distant. He quietly reminded me of my debt and Old Walter felt 2 feet tall and 3 feet thick. I learned then, better to go without than go in debt.

Some smart person told me if you total up what everybody in Canada owes on a credit card and average it out per person, then every one of us owes more than we make in a year. There are 74 million credit cards in Canada - three for every Canadian over the age of 18. Well, all I can tell you is that there is one credit card in Walter’s wallet that gets used very little and paid every month. Did you know nearly half of Canadians don’t even know how much interest they pay a month on their credit! The same folks gripe for an hour about HST while they are blindly paying twice that much on their credit cards!

If a man has trouble using too much plastic I hand him a pair of scissors. You don’t give free cocaine to a drug addict so why give what feels like free money to a man in debt. There’s always a way out of debt for a man or woman willing to work hard and live light. It may not be the most comfortable life, but they’ll sleep sound with a good conscience at night.

Proverbs 16:16 How much better to get wisdom than gold!
To get understanding is to be chosen rather than silver.

Used furniture, old clothes, fruits and vegetables are the way to get rid of debt. You may not be as good-looking or well-fashioned as the next lady, but it would shock you to know how little she really owns anyway. There’s nothing so freeing as a debt paid. Just think of when you came to Christ and your most unpayable debt was taken away… how light and joyful you felt! Well, to some degree that’s what you’ll feel when the credit card says zero! Debt is a four-letter word and ought to be avoided like a sinkhole on the highway. Pay off that debt as fast as you can and never get in it again!

That goes for the spiritual also! If your sins still have you in debt to God, then run to Jesus Christ who can erase what you owe in less than a second. If you think an earthly debt is hard to pay off, then I have news for you about your eternal one. We used to sing by the campfire,

He paid a debt He did not owe, I owed a debt I could not pay
I needed someone to wash my sin away.
And now I sing that brand new song, Amazing grace (all day long)
My Jesus paid the debt that I could never pay.

I can’t help but wonder if He has paid yours? Once He has, then this verse will make more sense than a shovel in winter:

Romans 13:8 Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.

A person, who gets their money under control, might find it helps them in other areas of life too. Most of our over-spending is just giving way to our lusts and sinful pleasures… so spending less than you earn will help check those excesses. Not that a frugal man is a sinless man! A man can err just as severe on the other side by hording and lusting like Scrooge in the story. Better to be a man who chases hard after godliness in all areas.

Putting Others Into Debt
When it comes to putting others into debt, I agree with Solomon:

Proverbs 17:18 One who lacks sense gives a pledge
and puts up security in the presence of his neighbor.

Do not lend what you’re not willing to lose. I’d sooner give my neighbour a shovel than have him borrow mine. I’d rather make him a dinner than lend him the money to buy it. I’d rather have him stay under my roof than loan him my tent. Those in need are usually the worst borrowers – until a man learns to take care of himself he probably won’t take care of your stuff. I once leant a great deal of money to a friend that I totally trusted. He was going to pay it off in a month! Well, over a year later I had most of it back again. He and I both would have been better off had I given him what I could’ve spared.

And I suppose having a little to spare is a good plan.

Proverbs 13:22 A good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children,
but the sinner's wealth is laid up for the righteous.

If I can die with a little for my kids and grandkids, I will be a happy man. I once saw a flyer for a company that would help you to die poor – spending all your money in a content retirement so that your bank account and heart would expire at the same moment. Well, I never did figure how they could time those things so right without a needle or a hammer, but never mind, because the goal was all wrong. Money is just a tool to live by, and if a little more might help my kids, than I am happy to leave it for them.

I say, learn to spend less than you earn and most of these things will take care of themselves. Then, once you have a little in the bank, be willing to give it away to whomever needs it if the Lord should lay that on your heart.

To Whom Shall I Give?
But even that can be a tricky thing.

Having money in the bank brings with it its own set of troubles. I’m too old to have taken French in school, but I am guessing “entourage” must be the French word for “blood-suckers.” I see these rich athletes and rock stars on the news never going anywhere without their little group fawning and following after and fleecing them. Well, these poor fellows ought to mind the words of the King:

Proverbs 19:6 Many seek the favor of a generous man,
and everyone is a friend to a man who gives gifts.

Money will always buy companions, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother (Pr 18:24) and He won’t be bought. When money leaves, so do the bloodsuckers! So Solomon warns the rich who might be tempted to think that their money has nothing to do with their popularity:

Proverbs 19:4 Wealth brings many new friends,
but a poor man is deserted by his friend.
Proverbs 19:7 All a poor man's brothers hate him;
how much more do his friends go far from him!
Proverbs 14:20 The poor is disliked even by his neighbor,
but the rich has many friends.

What’s more, some of my wealthier friends have the regular trial of deciding who to help. Everybody figures some of that wealth ought to come to them – and that they would be quick to do likewise had they the same. A rich man has to say, “No” sometimes, and that may be harder than pulling stumps in a muddy field for some people. I say, leave the rich alone and let them trust the Lord for where their money ought to go. If a wealthy Christian hears by providence of some particular need, he’ll be more than happy to help.

Not that a man ought to hate money. “It is the blessing of the Lord that makes rich” (Pr 10:22). The church can use some money to do the will of God and so the Lord often blesses some folks with more than they need. The trick is what you do with it!

Jesus told the story of a man who looked at all his great wealth as his own – for himself (Luke 16). He built bigger barns instead of a bigger treasure and died without hope of heaven. If the Lord prospers a man, it is more than likely so the man can take care of some of the Lord’s needy ones.

Proverbs 11:24 One gives freely, yet grows all the richer;
another withholds what he should give, and only suffers want.
25 Whoever brings blessing will be enriched,
and one who waters will himself be watered.

Proverbs 19:17 Whoever is generous to the poor lends to the LORD,
and he will repay him for his deed.

Proverbs 28:27 Whoever gives to the poor will not want,
but he who hides his eyes will get many a curse.

Proverbs 21:13 Whoever closes his ear to the cry of the poor
will himself call out and not be answered.

Remember Paul’s warnings to Timothy:

1 Timothy 6:17 As for the rich in this present age, charge them not to be haughty, nor to set their hopes on the uncertainty of riches, but on God, who richly provides us with everything to enjoy. 18 They are to do good, to be rich in good works, to be generous and ready to share, 19 thus storing up treasure for themselves as a good foundation for the future, so that they may take hold of that which is truly life.

Well, there was more than you bargained for – kind of like trying to run into one store at the mall with your wife. Have fun talking about all this together… I wish I could be with you!

Your Brother,


Walter

P.S. Please tell Pastor Muller I got his letter and we will mail down the rest of his cow come September.

Sunday, October 15, 2006

Walter Says You Really Ought to Go to Church....

Grace Fellowship Church: Walter on Going to Church:

Here is some timely advice for this Sunday!

"Now, I know you city-folk get to hockey games all the time, but for me, this was a rare occurrence. So, I didn't want to miss a thing! It was a great game that ended up tied with Montreal with 5 minutes to play! But wouldn't you know that right around that time, those two large coffees, one pop and a hot chocolate all got to impressing on me the need to take a trip to the little boy's room. Finally, I could take it no longer and dashed down the aisle and out the door and back again as fast as my old legs would carry me... only to hear a giant cheer as I rounded the corner to re-enter the rink! I had missed it! The winning goal! Montreal - losers again! Just like me!

Now, it seems to me that is the thing that nearly almost happens on the Sunday you miss gathering with your fellow saints. The Sunday God chooses to come down, is the one Sunday you pick to convene a meeting with Pastor Pillow and Deacon Sheets! But the way to never miss the blessing is to always attend the fellowship.

You might think of church meetings like a series of meals. Mrs. Walter is more than a fine cook, but every once in a while she tips the cow and raises the roof. Some new recipe or even an old recipe comes together in such a way and at such a time that we are faced with a banquet we'll not soon forget. But if you skip dinner that noon to fix the spindle on your hay rake you miss the meal where your wife makes Martha Stewart look like a short-order cook. You've got to be there! Same with church."

Wednesday, October 04, 2006

Grace Fellowship Church: Walter on Getting a Job and Going to Work

Grace Fellowship Church: Walter on Getting a Job and Going to Work:

I was musing over one of Walter's letters today and had to chuckle at this little bit:

"I have known men who can spend heaps of energy figuring out how not to work that, had they just put the same into a shovel for an hour, they could have dug 4 miles of ditch. Some men move so slow you'd think their wife fed them led pancakes for breakfast and poured concrete in their shoes! The sluggard gets himself to the table, but never gets his hand from the bowl to his mouth - that's too much work! (Pr 19:24; 26:15). He squeaks like a rusty hinge, but for all his noise he only goes back and forth, never forward (Pr 26:14).

Solomon said, the 'idle suffer hunger' (Pr 19:15 ) and 'hunger drives a man to work' (Pr 16:26 ), but the sluggard would rather sleep with a growling stomach than work for a full one. If Saul had ten excuses for not destroying the Amalekites, the sluggard has 100 for not going to work. The sluggard says, 'There is a lion in the road! There is a lion in the streets!' (Pr 26:13). And I know that lion's Latin classification: occupationale avoidest"


You can read the whole letter at the link above.

Tuesday, January 17, 2006

Old Walter Writes - Some Thoughts on Divorce

From a letter by Walter to Grace Fellowship Church....

“...Agree to never talk about some things. Really, only one thing comes to my mind... and that is the D-word. Mrs. Walter and I have never discussed, even in jest, the idea of divorce. We never joke about it, threaten it, think about it or talk about it. We decided early on that death would be the only thing to separate us.

Now that does something to you! If you walk into a marriage with some ridiculous “escape clause,” you are inviting division! Old Charlie McIntyre used to talk so much about how everything was going to go wrong it almost always did... for him! If he’d of just kept at has task and worried about pleasing the Lord more than what troubles might beset him, he’d have lived a happier and no doubt longer life.

I read once of a sea captain who cut loose his own lifeboats so as to keep his men on board ship while they passed some tropical islands. Those sailors were tempted to sneak off to what looked like greener pastures when there was a way to get there. Once them lifeboats were gone, they were focused on the task and kept to their duties. A couple needs to take out the slightest thought of slinking off on a lifeboat to some supposed Tahiti. Some folks treat divorce like a lifeboat to happier shores. Cut it loose and get on with loving yours. Life will always be better if you stick together and grow in the Lord...”

You can read the whole letter here.

Thursday, September 22, 2005

Bible Centre - One Well-Loaded Website!

Bible Centre
I just found this site for the first time - have you seen it?
A great stash of some excellent research materials. Owning the book is always better (in my mind), but if you can't afford or find it, here is a great place to get your information!
Some highlights of available materials:
* F C Keil & F Delitzsch - Commentary on the Old Testament (10 volumes)
* Gerhard Kittel, Gerhard Friedrich - The Theological Dictionary of the New Testament (10 volumes)
* Colin Brown - New International Dictionary of New Testament Theology
* Brown, Driver, & Briggs - Complete Hebrew-English Lexicon
* J H Thayer - Greek-English Lexicon (unabridged)
* International Standard Bible Encyclopedia
* Walter Elwell - Evangelical Commentary on the Bible
* Walter Elwell - Evangelical Dictionary of Biblical Theology
* Walter Martin - Kingdom of the Cults
* Philip Schaff - History of the Christian Church (8 volumes)
* Flavius Josephus - Complete Works
* Andrew R Fausset - Bible Dictionary
* Robert Dabney - Systematic Theology
* Charles G Finney - Lectures on Theology
* Jacob Arminus - Complete Works
* John Calvin - The Institutes

Tuesday, July 31, 2007

Walter on How Men Look - Part the Third

You can read the first part of Walt's letter here.

For part two click here.

For a whole barnload of Walter's thoughts, go here.

Looking Down

A man’s eyes can’t always be up and there are a couple reasons why.

First, a man needs to look down when the look forward is full of female flesh he’d be better off not seeing. Now I know that at the root of lust is a heart problem, but it sure won’t hurt a man to make a visual contract with himself. Job did and the terms specified he would not gaze on a virgin. That means that although his glance might meet with the painted eyes and over-sensualized dress of an immodest (or mostly modest) lady, he’ll stare at his shoes before he’ll stare at her.

Better to look down and walk into a wall than gaze at what is in front of you and fall off a cliff!

Now I know that is not always the easiest thing to do, and I don’t mean to over-simplify the root of the matter – but you’re a heap less likely to get hit by a plane if you stay off the runway! Can a man take fire in his bosom and not get burned? Of course not, and he might as well stay away from the matches and kindling as well!

Of course, when he doesn’t, and the mind of his heart wanders to forbidden places, then he ought to be a might quick looking down in a second way – in repentance. Some men think of sin like it were a missed tee shot – something to be mad about, but a thing they can fix next time. But we need to see our sin as sin, and there is no better way to do that than give a fresh consideration to the cross. That is what my sin deserves.

Looking Up

Well, you knew I was going to get to this one didn’t you? And rightly so! For no look down is complete without a look up! And just as we need to look up to the Lord for grace and forgiveness, we need to look up to the Lord for daily strength. I took a quick glance over my life the other day and discovered something – I tend to grow a little lax in the Bible reading and prayer department in the summer time.

You’d think those extra daylight hours would be put to better use, but I am a slacker at heart. So, this year, I have made it goal to not miss one day in June, July or August when it comes to reading and praying… and so far, the Lord has given grace.

Maybe this would be a good idea for you, too. Nothing like a week of vacation to drop rats in your grain bin. Why is it we love our rest so much? Why not take that time of less responsibilities to do more spiritual growth? That’s what I’m going to aim for anyway, and I’d be happy to have y’all join me in the endeavor!

Looking Nowhere

Finally, having looked forward, behind, beside, down and up – we need to look nowhere. What I mean is that a man needs to learn to humble himself and get some rest. Is it pride that keeps a man up late? Is there some part of us that just wants to believe that we can get by without a respite. Only God never sleeps or slumbers, but men have to do both.

And when you fight rest, you usually end up encouraging sin. Too much late night singularity can lead to too much sin. A man is never so vulnerable to the enemy as when he is all alone and tired.

I realize there are times a fellow has to stay up and get things done, but I’m talking more about the “stay up just because I want to” kind of thing. A wise man will learn to accept the fact that he needs to sleep, and that said sleep will do more to make him do more than a dose of caffeinated coffee in his bloodstream.

Well, such is all I care to pen between the bleating of newborn kids.

Have yourselves a pleasant meeting and remember to not waste a second of the precious time God has granted you with one another.

Sincerely,

Walter

P.S. I hope the red sticks win.

Tuesday, March 27, 2007

Walter Writes Our Church - How to Endure Through Boring Times in the Christian Life (Part One)

For a complete list of Walter's letters on this blog, go here. You can also see the letters in their entirety here.


Dear Paul and all my friends at GFC,

The Lord saw fit to dump a barn-load of snow on us the other day, which had me on the tractor blowing out the driveway for near two hours. Now it wouldn’t normally take so long, if it hadn’t been for the layer of ice under the snow. I had to keep backing up and take a run at the drifts like a horizontal yo-yo on steroids. The whole adventure became rather tiring and there weren’t a few times I thought about turning the engine off and waiting for spring.

Of course, spring never comes as fast as you’d like, and if I had left that snow to lie, Mrs. Walter would soon be out of food and I’d be out of a bed! Fact is, sometimes you have to stay at some jobs that are just plain boring or routine. Nobody jumps for joy at having to weed their garden through the dog days of summer – but it must get done, and the fruit is worth it.

It struck me while I was out throwing sand under the tractor’s wheels, that there comes some dog days in the life of a church as well. Things are just humming along, no particular crises or calamities. Your barn’s not on fire and your cows still milk. There is just week after week of the same stuff.

And a distracted person will feel like there is something wrong. A complaining person will invent something wrong. And an immature person will just abandon ship – which is wrong! So, I determined to do a little study and send down the fruit of my labours in a another missive. If you all feel like reading it, then Bob’s your uncle.

Now, anyone who’s lifted a finger knows the start of a task is easier than the end. But even the end is easier than the middle! When a man starts at plowing his arms are fresh, the day is young and his blade is sharp. When he rounds the corner to make his last turn, the hope of being done fills his step with an extra bounce! But in the middle... when the sun is hot and the blade loses its edge and its row after row after row and you wonder how on earth you will ever get to the end... in the middle, a man might be a tad prone to discouragement. Or any of those other D-words of the D-devil – defeat, disillusionment, despair, depression or “Drat, why’d I decide to be a farmer anyway?”

That leads me to my first point. You don’t endure dessert. What I mean is that endurance assumes trouble. You endure a canker sore, a dead skunk under your porch or your neighbour’s vacation pictures. You enjoy Thanksgiving dinner or a Leafs win. Somehow, many a Christian gets to thinking that their whole life ought to be feast and festivity – like “having Jesus” were some kind of pass from life’s troubles and tribulations. Well, there’s a bunch of hoogly if ever I heard it.

Once, Jesus painted a picture of men’s hearts as dirt, and said the man with rocks in his heart will act all fruitful when he hears the Gospel, but will wilt and wither at the first blast of affliction or persecution. He does not endure and therefore was never truly born again. (Matthew 13:21)

Or when talking about the end of the age, Jesus could tell the Twelve that only the one who endures to the end will be saved. Now, what kinds of things does that man have to endure? Jesus told us. False prophets, fake Messiahs, real wars, hard famines, turbulent earthquakes, false arrest, wrongful imprisonment, miserable beatings and death. You know, just your average trials. (Mark 13)

So, we must forget this nonsense about life being easy. And by “forget this nonsense,” I mean we ought to give up burning all our energies trying to make it easy. A man who spends his life trying to find ease is like a man trying to empty Lake Ontario with a milk bucket. He might spend 18 hours a day, 7 days a week for 50 years scooping away, but in the end all he’ll have is wet sleeves and a soggy lawn. You might spend all your days chasing after pleasure, but in the end you’ll say with Old Solomon “I considered all that my hands had done and the toil I had expended in doing it, and behold, all was vanity and a striving after wind, and there was nothing to be gained under the sun” (Ecclesiastes 2:11).

Nope, you might as well admit the curse is real and that for every bushel of grain you’ll dig a barrel of weeds. There is good to be had, but not if you live for it. And most of life will be a case of enduring... or patiently doing what you ought to do through the boring or troublesome times.

Now, the best part of what the Bible has to say on endurance is in this realm, the realm of trouble – persecutions, afflictions, temptation, evil, struggle and suffering. Here is a sampling:

Romans 5:3-5 “More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.”

1 Corinthians 4:12 “...when persecuted, we endure...”

1 Corinthians 10:13 “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.”

Hebrews 10:32-33 “32 But recall the former days when, after you were enlightened, you endured a hard struggle with sufferings, sometimes being publicly exposed to reproach and affliction, and sometimes being partners with those so treated.”

1 Peter 2:19-20 “For this is a gracious thing, when, mindful of God, one endures sorrows while suffering unjustly. For what credit is it if, when you sin and are beaten for it, you endure? But if when you do good and suffer for it you endure, this is a gracious thing in the sight of God.”

Now it is one thing to write all those words down, but quite another to live them.

When Job lost all, he sat down and humbly looked to God:

“Naked I came from my mother's womb, and naked shall I return. The Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord.”

But things got harder. A few days of sitting around scraping his sores with clay shards while his friends scraped his character with harsh words... and Job got a tad defensive and a little arrogant. That’s only one example of how hard it can be to endure troubles.

May the Lord give us grace!

(To be continued....)



Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Walter on Not Giving Up in the Middle

Grace Fellowship Church: Walter on Not Giving Up in the Middle:

"The Devil has more than one trick in his bag. Sometimes he will try to fear you into sin, sometimes he will try to lure you into sin, and other times he will just sit back and let you drift into sin.

I wonder if Shem ever got bored? Every day, year after year hammering like a fool on that giant floating barn. Did he ever feel like giving up? Did he ever get tired of the smell of gopher wood? Did he ever question the whole project and say to Noah, “Dad, I’m tired of all this pitch under my nails! Ark schmark! Let’s go to Disneyland!”

Or what of Methuselah? 969 years on earth! The average man works 1/3 of his life. If Methuselah retired at 69, he had to live off his RIF for 900 years! That must have been some good investing! Did he ever start to wonder, “What is this all about anyway?” “I’m 813 years old... let’s see... what HAVEN’T I done?”

Or what of the 7 churches described in the Revelation to John? Most of them had pretty exciting starts! The Ephesian church began with a city riot, for example (Acts 19). But they ran into trouble some 50 years later. Although they are commended for their endurance in some things, they had not endured in all things. They had not endured in their love for God. Now, why was that? I am not sure I know. But I’ve been married as long as Yonge St. and know that if a man is not deliberate, if he doesn’t keep at the little things, the love he has for his wife will wane.

And I would bet a nickel to your dollar that the same is true in the life of a church. After a while, the same old things can seem... well, like the same old things. Another sermon, another prayer meeting, another lunch, another worship service. And if we are not careful, we’ll begin to think of church like some Muslims think of their 32nd wife – not much at all!

Now the Lord in His grace may send along some hailstorm or earthquake to shake things up and wake things up – but I would rather stay at the course than have the Omnipotent flex his arm in order to get our attention!"

Friday, December 13, 2013

Challies, Walter and Getting Angry

Tim preached a helpful little sermon on anger last Sunday and that got me thinking about a letter old Walter wrote our church a few years back. You can read the whole thing here, but I liked this little quote:

It's a funny thing with anger. It feels like it must get vented, otherwise we will explode or something. Yet, quite the opposite is true. Vent it - and you'll be throwing gasoline on the fire! Suppress it - and the fire is snuffed out. Notice I said "suppress" and not "repress." I'm not a wordsmith, by any stretch, but there's a difference in my mind between those two terms. By suppress I mean, turn away from the anger and pray to the Sovereign. By repress I mean just get tight-lipped and fuming mad on the inside. I don't see much grace in the second of the two. I think what the Lord desires is for us to lose the anger on the outside and the inside - and we can, by His help.
 One encouragement in all this is to recall the respect God lays on the name of the man that controls his anger:
 Proverbs 29:11  “A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back.”

Wednesday, June 07, 2006

On Being a Man

Grace Fellowship Church: Walter on Being a Man:

My old friend Walter wrote us a while back some of his thoughts on being a man. I think he would agree with Lig Duncan that there are undeniable differences between the sexes... to the glory of God!

"Water is a liquid and so is gasoline - but only one will make your car go! The sad truth is that men just don't work when they try to act like women. The most obvious clue to this is the confused fellows you sometimes see in downtown Toronto. But the less obvious ones are the throngs of men who think being a passive receiver is a virtue. These flim flams are like a castrated bull: they take up room, eat your feed and aren't even good for hamburger in the end."

Saturday, March 25, 2006

Walter on Fault-Finding...

My old pal Walter wrote a pithy little letter not too long ago on fault-finding and how to fix it. You can read the whole thing here, but I thought I would offer this small sampling for a Saturday afternoon. Good preparation for all you GFC folks for our Fellowship Lunch tomorrow!
One of the funniest things about being human, however, is that we tend to discover these mistakes very quickly in everyone but ourselves. Most men are like children standing in front of a carnival mirror – yet the distorted picture they see is one of near-perfection, not sinful silliness.

Jesus said it this way:

Luke 6:41 Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? 42 How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take out the speck that is in your eye,’ when you yourself do not see the log that is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take out the speck that is in your brother's eye.

Most of us are running around with cedar fence-poles sticking out of our eyes while we hunt for a fleck of lint in our brother’s ocular apparatus. Let it be stated, you’ll never get close enough to a man to really see him if you’re sticking a fence-pole into his forehead! Let it also be stated that lint leaves faster than lumber! It takes no scientist to see at least a part of what Jesus was getting at is that we ought to pay a might more attention to our own stuff than we normally do… and not worry so much about the stuff in our neighbour.

Daughters of Eve and Sons of Adam have this in common – an inborn ability to think too high of themselves. Show me a critical and fault-finding woman and I’ll show you a woman who’s never seriously looked in the mirror of Truth. Open your mouth and all looks fine – until the dentist shines his bright light in there to find holes and stains galore. There are far too many denture-Christians, running around like they had Robert Redford’s teeth when the fact is 18 years of coffee-drinking has done its damage. We were born damaged, and years of sin (as an unbeliever or a believer) means we have faults-a-plenty to contend with – most of them entirely unseen by us. It might surprise the average person to have everyone in the room write down one constructive criticism of them. Why, a whole book with multiple chapters, an index and colour illustrations could be written in an hour! That’s why the Lord said through Solomon:

Proverbs 10:12 Hatred stirs up strife, / but love covers all offenses.

Or, as Peter said in the New Testament:

1 Peter 4:8 Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.

The best way to handle another’s faults is to soak them in a bucket of love. The worst medicine doesn’t taste too bad in a glass of milk. Surround your liver and onions with some good old mashed potatoes and it’ll go down a tad easier. Put some love into every relationship and you’ll find you can bear more than an elephant.

If we thought more about what was good in others instead of what was wrong, we’d find life a tractor-load more pleasant and perhaps load up on a few good friends along the way. Some people are drawn to failings in others like sharks to fresh blood. The old shark wondered where all his friends had disappeared to… he should have looked in his belly!

Galatians 5:14 For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” 15 But if you bite and devour one another, watch out that you are not consumed by one another.


Have a fantastic day today loving your neighbour!

Saturday, February 25, 2006

Walter on Why You Should Go to Church

Click here for the full article

Here is a sample...

"Now that takes me right in to my final thought. Going to church is like joining a gym. If you just show up from time to time your belly won’t shrink and your abs won’t grow. To tell the truth, I don’t even know what abs are, but two infomercials later and the word is stuck in my noggin. My point is that your heart has to be in it. I have never understood this notion of “adherent.” Do you have those at Grace? I think you should get rid of them if you do. As best I understand that big word, it means something like: “not willing to fully commit.” Now, I know I just stepped on a few tender feet, but hear me out. I think (and Mrs. Walter agrees) that you need to do all you can to join whatever church you are attending. Make a promise to be at the meetings and do your best to love the saints. Why would you not? For the life of me I cannot figure it out. All these great blessings would be yours in abundance.

Now some folks have opened their mouths with all kinds of sophistries about being a member of Christ’s church and that being good enough. If I’ve heard that line once I’ve heard it 37 times. Friend, since I barely know you, let me just write, I think your real problem is with pride. I think the thing that keeps most folks from joining a church is a desire to stay unaccountable and to keep their attendance and service and giving to a minimum.

All I can say to that is that you are robbing yourself. Jesus said it was more blessed to give than to receive and I think you ought to join whatever group of believers you are with to do just that very thing. I realize there may be some doctrinal and other tricky issues to overcome... but a room of full of people that love one another ought to be able to find a creative way to do just that – overcome the obstacles."