Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Portions (Letty: Part Two)


The Lord graciously took my dear mother-in-law, Letty Hueni, to Himself on April 23rd after a long battle with Alzheimer’s and the effects of several strokes. Bed-ridden for her last five years, she was wonderfully cared for by Dad and the surrounding family. She never left home. I thought I would post some thoughts about mom over the next few days…


Back in those days when Susan and I were engaged to be married, my 23rd birthday came along. Mom asked what I would like and I told her that a new bottle of Drakkar Noir would be nice. For the uninitiated, Drakkar Noir was, in 1989, about the coolest cologne a guy could splash on.

Well, my birthday arrived and with it a box from Mom and Dad. I opened it up only to find the largest spritzer of cologne on the open market. The thing was huge. In fact, I am still using it! Scents and sprays may have moved on but I am still happily exuding 1989!

This penchant for the large was a mom trademark. That same summer I was working back in Canada and she insisted on sending a dinner every week in my work cooler for the long drive home from Indiana. This was remarkable. Five or six cold meat sandwiches (with ketchup nonetheless!), two full sized bag of chips (“you like Doritos?”), two full baggies of carrot slices, other assorted fruit and vegetables, and a few sodas (“you like Dr. Pepper?”). I don’t think I ever told her, but that “supper” would last for the drive home and all the way to Wednesday lunch!

Then there was the year I asked for a bag of the infamous Leman’s mints for a Christmas gift. When we got to Indiana there was a good-sized box under the little artificial tree that had my name on it. Leman’s mints came in small bags, not a box. I was curious, but not shocked. When I opened my present there were 48 bags of mints in the box!

Now, I used to think that mom just thought I was enormous and thus everything needed to be big. But I saw her and Dad give generously to so many through the years that I learned it was only a sign of her deep love and generosity that she gave so much. For, it wasn’t just gifts. Mom gave her food, her work, her affection, her joy, her time, her babysitting, her home, her thoughtfulness, and her prayers in the same huge portions. And she lived like a woman who expected nothing in return.

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

The Night I Fell in Love with Letty


The Lord graciously took my dear mother-in-law, Letty Hueni, to Himself on April 23rd after a long battle with Alzheimer’s and the effects of several strokes. Bed-ridden for her last five years, she was wonderfully cared for by Dad and the surrounding family. She never left home. I thought I would post some thoughts about mom over the next few days…

Tonight I have been enjoying one of my favorite Mom memories. It was early in my engagement to Susan and I was down visiting my fiancé on a summer weekend. (Those were the days... working 60 hour weeks landscaping, jumping in the 3-cylinder Pontiac Firefly on Friday nights and zooming off to my love!)

Anyway, it was one August Saturday night around the little family room table eating fresh corn on the cob when it happened. I am something of a corn on the cob fiend, truth be told, and I was enjoying this Indiana specialty. Really enjoying it.

Somewhere in the middle of my third or fourth cob, Mom put hers down, looked over at me (with that twinkle in her eye I would come to love) and said matter-of-factly, “You sound like a pig when you eat.”

That was it.

But it was all so dry and so innocent and so wonderfully true! And we all laughed a lot as she went back to eating.

I decided right then and there that we were going to be good friends, me and Letty. And through the years she would say the funniest things at the most unexpected times. She was the master of the “zinger!” She could wonderfully crush me or call my bluff in ten words or less! I often wondered if she knew what she was doing. She had that kind of Gracie Allen charm about her that made you wonder, “Did I just get got?” And then she would be back to sewing or cooking or cleaning or reading a book to one of my kids with a little smile hiding underneath.

Dreadful Alzheimer’s eventually stole much of that sparkle, but that just makes memories sweeter now.

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

8 Reasons to Tell Each Other About God's Work of Saving Us


“Sing to the Lord, all the earth!
Tell of his salvation from day to day.”
- 1 Chronicles 16:23


1. To think right thoughts about God and His character.
Satan’s ploy in the garden was to deceive Eve into thinking that God was not who He revealed Himself to be.  That same tactic is used by our enemy all the time! We need to think rightly about God and nothing so sanctifies our thoughts of Him as a careful contemplation of the cross.

2. To promote His Gospel.
Over and again the Bible calls us to speak of His salvation “that the nations might hear!”  Those who are fluent in the Gospel have something to say to the Lost.
1Chronicles 16: 24 “Declare his glory among the nations, / his marvelous works among all the peoples! / 25 For great is the Lord, and greatly to be praised, / and he is to be held in awe above all gods. / 26 For all the gods of the peoples are idols, / but the Lord made the heavens.”

3. To aid in our worship.
Our corporate worship is massively intensified if we all come together with fresh thoughts of Jesus and His cross.  Our prayers, singing, preaching, fellowshipping and reading of the Word are enlivened in intangible, but very real ways.
Psalm 40: 9 “I have told the glad news of deliverance / in the great congregation; / behold, I have not restrained my lips, / as you know, O Lord. / 10 I have not hidden your deliverance within my heart; / I have spoken of your faithfulness and your salvation; / I have not concealed your steadfast love and your  faithfulness / from the great congregation.”

4. To encourage our own souls.
MLJ said, “Your problem is that you listen to yourself, rather than talk to yourself.”  We are in need of daily preaching the cross to our own souls – its accomplishments, its application, and its illustration of the love of God.
Jude 1:3 “Beloved, although I was very eager to write to you about our common salvation…”

5. To have something to say to our Accuser!
John Newton said: “Be thou my shield and hiding-place!  That, sheltered near thy side, I may my fierce accuser face, And tell him, "Thou hast died."  Or consider the words of Charitee Bancroft’s wonderful hymn: “When Satan tempts me to despair / And tells me of the guilt within / Upward I look and see Him there / Who made an end of all my sin / Because the sinless Savior died / My sinful soul is counted free / For God the Just is satisfied / To look on Him and pardon me”
Or consider the words of Psalm 70:3 "Let them turn back because of their shame / who say, “Aha, Aha!” / 4 May all who seek you / rejoice and be glad in you! / May those who love your salvation / say evermore, ‘God is great!’”

6. To Prepare us for Heaven
Isaiah 25:8 "He will swallow up death forever; / and the Lord God will wipe away tears from all faces, / and the reproach of his people he will take away from all the earth, / for the Lord has spoken. / 9 It will be said on that day, / ‘Behold, this is our God; we have waited for him, that he might save us. / This is the Lord; we have waited for him; / let us be glad and rejoice in his salvation.’”
Thinking on salvation is one of our primary heavenly activities.  Pondering His saving work will never grow redundant or tiresome!  So, we do good heaven prep work by telling each other now all that we can discover of His saving grace!

7.  To Encourage Each Other
Romans 1: 11 “For I long to see you, that I may impart to you some spiritual gift to strengthen you— 12 that is, that we may be mutually encouraged by each other's faith, both yours and mine. 13 I want you to know, brothers, that I have often intended to come to you (but thus far have been prevented), in order that I may reap some harvest among you as well as among the rest of the Gentiles. 14 I am under obligation both to Greeks and to barbarians, both to the wise and to the foolish. 15 So I am eager to preach the gospel to you also who are in Rome.”
Paul writes to Christians, but tells them he wants to preach the Gospel to them – the Good News of Jesus and His atoning death!  Why?  Because it will be a source of profound mutual encouragement to speak to each other about what Jesus did on their behalf (“that we may be mutually encouraged by each other's faith”).

8.  To Strengthen Our Cross-Centered Authenticity
A growing grasp of justification by grace through faith alone allows men and women to stand without fear of condemnation before God and each other. One of the great aids in our personal sanctification is this very thing – the ability to treat our sin as sin.  This kind of authenticity is increased as Believers find their understanding of Jesus’ cross-work expanded.

Friday, March 09, 2012

79 Things I Love About My Mom!


Today is my mom’s 79th birthday.  Yesterday I got to thinking about her and all the ways the Lord has blessed me through her and I decided to write a few down. Once I got going, I realized it would be pretty simple to come up with a lot of things I am thankful for! So, I decided to try for 79. It was easy!



Without further ado, in no particular order, I present you with 79 things I am thankful to God for in my mom:

  1. Taking me to church when I was a boy
  2. Letting me be friends with her adult friends
  3. Buying me a lot of Legos before they were cool
  4. Taking me to the cottage when the rest of the family had to work in the summer
  5. Letting me spend endless days at the cottage in a swimsuit – and only having to wear a shirt at meals!
  6. For spilling that plate of spaghetti on my lap so I could learn how hot food feels on the legs
  7. Making our home a place where all my friends liked to be
  8. Taking me to hockey practices at early hours
  9. Taking me to hockey games
  10. Cheering like crazy at hockey games
  11. Never complaining at my routinely poor grades on report cards
  12. Coming home for lunch every day from the flower shop
  13. Taking me to thousands of visits to the doctor to get those awful, twice-per-week allergy shots. Shudder.
  14. Sitting by my bed every day when I was in the hospital for two weeks as a scared 11 year old.
  15. Challenging me to corn on the cob eating contests when it was just the two of us at the cottage
  16. Doing my laundry for 19 years
  17. Coming to all my school plays, concerts and other stuff
  18. Making me stay at school during kindergarten while I cried like a firehose
  19. Asking my principal to help me when my entire class was out to beat me up – it was a pretty miserable existence for a few days before that!
  20. Years of routine. Routine meals, routine conversations, routine weeks – blessed routine!
  21. Letting me eat popcorn in the family room while we watched Love Boat.
  22. Playing softball at the cottage in front of my friends and knocking one out of the park!
  23. Allowing me to have three cookies a day. A rule I never broke. (Until I was married!)
  24. Letting me come into her room on Sunday mornings and jumping into bed with her and Dad.
  25. Not killing me after I vomited apple juice all over her and some important afghan that got “retired” after that moment in time
  26. Smiling a lot
  27. Listening to what had to be remarkably boring stories of what happened that day at school
  28. Paying for four years of The Master’s College while the Canadian dollar tanked
  29. Telling me it probably was a good idea for me to move out and go to California
  30. Being excited when I wanted to get baptized even though that was different for us Presbyterians
  31. Not getting angry at me for barely writing one letter per year home while I lived in LA
  32. Coming to my graduation from The Master’s College
  33. Accepting Susan without hesitation from the very start
  34. Letting us live in her home for a few months while we got set up back in Canada and headed off to Chesley Baptist Church
  35. Letting us live in her home for 13 months while we got Grace Fellowship Church started.
  36. Regularly visiting us in Chesley
  37. Being there when Allie and Sophie and Will were born – and sending beautiful flowers when Chloe came into he world in LA
  38. For listening when I emotionally explained I would need to resign the first church I pastored in the city
  39. For telling me that boys who spat on sidewalks were really quite rude
  40. For teaching me to open the door for ladies
  41. For teaching me that men should walk on the side of the street exposed to danger or splashing and keep the lady with them protected
  42. For making me chop wood and keep the pile by the stove in the cottage filled
  43. For getting up early every cold morning to silently start a fire – how does a person crinkle newspaper silently? Still in awe of that!
  44. For never complaining at all the band practises my Dad held so that I could enjoy that little bit of fun
  45. For letting me get out of doing dishes so I could play the drums while Dad played the organ for what seemed like every night after dinner
  46. For keeping a clean house
  47. For always respecting my dad. Never a word of criticism do I think I heard
  48. For coming to my graduation from The Master’s Seminary
  49. For loving my kids
  50. For coming with Dad to countless birthday parties and seeming really excited about the presents
  51. For loving Susan and me back in the early days and taking our kids so we could get away
  52. For coming to Grace Fellowship Church in the evenings when we first got started and being so supportive
  53. For asking me to baptize her and getting immersed in a public pool in front of a crowd in her seventies – with joy
  54. Having relationships with folks in the church that are independent of me as the pastor
  55. Modelling loyalty in friendship
  56. Caring for friends who have gotten older and need help
  57. Caring for a special couple of ladies who need love
  58. For talking on the phone to everybody. I’ve always loved that about my mom. She’s good on the phone!
  59. For not being afraid to ask for help when Dad got sick
  60. For sticking tight with Dad through his cancer – right to the end
  61. For sticking tight to her mom and dad when both of them came to the end of their lives
  62. For loving her brothers and sister and in-laws and the rest of the extended family
  63. For loving my Dad’s mom through her trials and illnesses and not flipping her lid when grandma got the cat food instead of tuna in the sandwiches one day
  64. For telling me to stop whining when I worked at the flower shop
  65. For telling everybody in her orbit to stop whining!
  66. For praying for people every day
  67. Letting me drive a boat at 14 years old without a life jacket on.
  68. Making me be a cub, then a scout and letting me quit when it got bad
  69. Not throwing our television out the window when I insisted on watching Emergency every day after school and turning up the volume when the sirens “sang”
  70. Not harping on the little things
  71. Always stopping at Grandpa and Grandmas on the way to the cottage or back and for all the other visits there. I loved those times
  72. Never making me feel I had to do something intangible or otherwise in order to be accepted by her
  73. Not being a gossip
  74. Being quick to laugh
  75. All those years of family gatherings at the house and the cottage
  76. Still cheering like crazy at hockey games
  77. Never complaining about chronic physical ailments
  78. Writing well over 29,000 birthday cards annually. At least that is what it looks like!
  79. For loving me.


Not everyone is blessed with a mom like mine. I thank God for her!

Thursday, March 08, 2012

Bring Your Child With Disabilities to Church With You

Show up and prepare somebody else for this life (and maybe save a life while doing so) « The Works of God:

I think everything my friend John Knight writes is important, but I really appreciated this little section in his article interacting with Mark Leach's piece...

"I know church can be hard, but if at all possible, show up.  Attempting to ‘do’ church with a child with disabilities is complicated, sometimes frustrating, and even overwhelming.  Yet the very presence of our families makes a difference!  When Paul was really little and we returned to church, I watched one family from afar who have a child with Down syndrome.  I never even approached them. Paul doesn’t have Down syndrome, but just knowing there was another dad walking around with a disabled child was a comfort.  It was only recently that I had the chance to tell that dad the impact he had. 
Our children matter, and people can see that when we show up with all our complications and embarrassing behaviors and strange noises.  And by doing so we help plant different seeds in people’s minds."

'via Blog this'

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

My Jazz Daughter Gets a Moment of Fame

A little brag on my kid... :-)

Plus, you get to listen to a sweet samba.


Friday, February 10, 2012

Leadership Lesson: Never justify my actions by the size or "success" of my ministry


I have been trying to gather some leadership lessons from a few of the current controversies buzzing in broader evangelicalism. Here is one I have come up: Never justify my actions by the size or "success" of my ministry.

It has surprised me how many times certain church leaders have appealed to large or growing numbers of followers to defend themselves from criticism. Critiques of their decisions or statements are shrugged off as irrelevant since “we just added 5000 people to our church,” or “I pastor 13,000 people meeting in six locations.” These numbers are utterly irrelevant. There is no place in the Bible that lists “large numbers of conversions” or “growing amount of members” as the gauge of success or as a reason everyone should just do what you say.

The NT rarely lists numbers and when it does it is more out of surprise at grace than anything else. And nowhere in these texts does one find the idea that this increase made the leaders where it occurred better pastors or teachers than the others. In fact, if numerical growth were the gauge of success, Jesus was a dismal failure – His crowds shrunk to zero.

Thus, when a man is challenged on his public actions, and all he can do is appeal to numbers, that reveals an alarming pride.  The notion that “big equals success” is Western, not Biblical. What disturbs me about this is not that it is new, but that some of the men defending themselves in this way really ought to know better. They have preached better.

What is the lesson? Don’t believe my own press. Don’t fall prey to thinking that even one convert makes me a better pastor than the man who, as yet, has seen none. At the same time, expect to see many conversions! We believe the Gospel is the power of God used by His grace to save sinners and we preach it like sinners will indeed be saved. But if the membership of my church is bigger than the membership of another church, that doesn’t mean I am a better pastor, a smarter pastor, or a pastor with greater ingenuity, charm, methods, or passion. In the end, it just means I bear greater responsibility and accountability.

And lest I excuse myself too easily, I must remember that this deceptive heart may find other ways to boast of numerical growth than the blatant statements above. Even Biblical sounding language, (“the Lord is adding to our numbers day by day”) can be foaming with envy and boastfulness.

Most of all, I must never allow my apparent “success” turn into a carte blanche defense of all criticism – especially if those critiques are coming from smaller corners of the vineyard. The Apostle Paul did not boast in numbers, but in Jesus. And when he did defend his ministry from accustation, he pointed to his personal suffering for the Gospel, not his "success." Godly leaders will listen carefully to their critics and compare their accusations to the Word, not their attendance charts.

Thursday, February 09, 2012

Living with a person who has Williams Syndrome


I loved, just loved what this New Zealand mom had to say about her adult daughter with Williams Syndrome.

“She’s one of the great things in our lives. She’s great! We wouldn’t changer her… well, we would change her if it would make it easier for her, but we quite like her just the way she is!"



Check out this link to my WS blog to see the video. Really well done!


Friday, February 03, 2012

Winners to the Great Image of God CD Giveaway Announced!!


I am happy to announce the winners to the Great Image of God CD Giveaway!!  In first place comes Mr. Dave Theobald, an old friend with some serious extra time on his hands. Dave put together a lovely little letter using a bunch of Christa’s earlier song titles. That was original and I and daughter #2 decided it deserved to win.

My friends have been telling me about Christa’s new EP Image of God. They’ve been like, it’s “Amazing” and it’s “All that you need!” And when I read your interview with Christa, it made me want it "all the more."

Second place was a little harder to decide, but in the end the CD will go to Daniella. Her letter was overflowing with excitement and the thought of making anybody dance around their kitchen and family room, well, that was just too good to pass by.

I'd so love a copy, any copy, any CD, of Christa's music so I can sing loud over dishes and dance in praise while I vacuum…

Thanks to all our participants and be sure to download your own copy of Christa Well’s and Nicole Witt’s Image of God.  You will be blessed!

Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Interview with Christa Wells plus win a copy of the Image of God EP!


Recommending music to someone is a perilous task. There is so much preference when it comes to what we like, that we can be utterly baffled when someone does not love what we love. That said, time seems to sift out those songs that are objectively good. They stick around for more than a few years. I think time will prove the songs of Image of God by Christa Wells and Nicole Witt to be in this camp. 

Some of you will know Christa Wells from her remarkable Frame theClouds EP. Who can forget the lyrics and melody of a song like, “Weightless?”

Well, I’ve carried this a long time
In a well-hidden bundle on my back
But I’ve realized forgiveness is weightless
So I’ll leave my burden on the tracks

How happy I was when Christa and Nicolle released their new EP Image of God at the start of the year. The album is full of rich lyrical content so perfectly carried along by creative and layered melodies and I think Christa has taken the depth of meaning in her songs to a new level in this work. It has been getting so much airplay in my world that I asked Christa if I could interview her about the album she co-wrote with her good friend, Nicole Witt.  So, here are 7 questions for Christa.

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The Interview:

Christa, thanks so much for joining us on the blog today and taking the time to answer our questions. I wanted to start by asking where the idea for the song Image of God came from?
Nicole Witt and I were co-hosting a retreat with Canadian writer Ann Voskamp focusing on what it means to live creatively, “In the Image of the Maker.”  We decided to write a song for those women and that weekend.  So the song “Image of God” was born in Nicole’s living room, with ideas emailed between us and Ann; we sent the song to the guests before the retreat, so they could learn it and sing it all together that weekend.  It was a beautiful thing, hearing those voices sing that song together for the first time.

Your thoughtful description and exposure of idolatry seems to indicate this is something you have lived through. What has the Lord used to show you your idols and how has He “left ashes in place of gold?”
That’s a huge question!    Nicole and I wrote the song together, but a portion of the lyrics had come to me years ago when God began showing me patterns of pride in my life. 
It didn’t look like pride to me at first glance – extreme performance anxiety (aka people-pleasing) is one example.  God used Andrew Murray’s book “Humility” to begin opening my eyes.  Another day, a fresh reading of Moses coming down the mountain to find God’s people worshiping a golden calf impacted me, because I saw that maybe what we most often erect in God’s place is simply Self, our own images, wants, agendas.  My insecurity and fear was rooted in pride, self-preservation and ego.  In essence, I was self-focused and didn’t want anyone to ever see my flaws – or even, see me as flawed.  This affected my ability to share music, my ability to be free and other-centered in relationships, and ultimately my experience of joy in Christ. 
He gave me eyes to see through reading, conversations, sermons, counseling.  The tearing down of those idols, repentance and renovation have been a long, slow process, and he’s used many situations, people, and circumstances.  He has allowed me to “fail” and then used those very moments to bless others more than the moments when I thought I was doing it all right. His beauty really shines through weakness.
Really, it will always be a temptation to resurrect the idols we are most drawn to.  But there is a great, big beautiful freedom and joy that has gradually come into my life because of His work in this area.

When was the “dawn of grace” in your life? How did the Lord save you?
When we talk about (as in the lyric) the “sweetest day my heart has known,” I don’t have a specific day to refer back to, because I don’t recall not understanding that I was loved and saved by God through Jesus Christ.  It seems like He was always there.  I remember asking to be baptized when I was seven, so I suppose that’s when I felt a fresh awareness of that relationship. 
But having said that, this song (which Nicole Witt and I wrote with Tony Wood) also points to the daily saving that He does – rescuing me from my persistent drive to try to earn His love, rather than receiving a Love I can’t possibly deserve. It goes back to the pride/idol conversation.  We want to think we’re worth it because we’re good enough. But we can’t keep the Law, and grace dawns on me every time my eyes return to the face of the One who did it for us.

What comes first for you, melody or lyric? Or are they born together? Or does one drive the other?
I typically write lyrics and music in tandem, although I need at least a solid scrap of lyric to kick off the whole process.  After the start, each line of lyric and melody affect the shaping of the next.

Where does songwriting fit into the life of a busy wife and mother?
I really want to be fully present when I’m with my family, and it’s a challenge once wheels start turning on a new song.  Or when opportunities to share or record come along.  Just making time to get to the piano is difficult, and comes and goes in seasons.  During some seasons, I carve out specific chunks of time into my routine, and my husband is awesome about that.  During other seasons, I fit it in in random pieces, slipping into the piano room on breaks from other activities.  God has been so very gracious to allow impactful music to come from a relatively small amount of writing.

If pressed, what is your favorite song out of all the ones you have written and released? Why?
Oh, that’s so hard!  I might have a special one from each project: “Garden Gate” from my first project (A Rogers/Wells Project: so much to tell you), “A Thousand Things” from Frame the Clouds, and “How Emptiness Sings” from the recent EP.
I’m a sucker for ballads and really find pleasure in singing them, but more than that I enjoy the phrasing, word choices, and melody lines in these certain songs.  I’ve never really tired of them.

How did you and Nicole Witt end up working together on the Image of God EP? Where did the idea for the album come from?
Well, Nicole and I work together on so much, it was natural after writing “Image of God” for us to write a few more and record them.  We do a lot of our performing together and are often asked to lead at least a few songs of worship.
Neither of us has really written for corporate worship before.  I really hadn’t felt the desire to do so before now.  We felt it was something we could do together with integrity.  It was very meaningful to both of us to pour simple music over these profound spiritual concepts and create something that we hoped would lead others to deeper reflection and prayer.


Well, sister, thank you for taking the time to let us into your world a little. It has been a joy!

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The Contest:

Conclusion and CONTEST! (Win a copy of Image of God!)
And for those of you reading at home, you can download Image of God from iTunes or Christa’s online store. Or, you can try and win yourself a free copy of the CD!  Here is how it will work. Leave a comment here on my blog and on Friday I will pick the two I like best and, courtesy of Christa, send you a copy of Image of God. Tell me why you think I should send you a copy, or what you have loved about Christa’s music, or something original. I will announce the winners in another post.

You can also download two songs from Christa's album, How Emptiness Sings, from Noisetrade.